beloved, I am not worthy of your love, and yet you love me. I cringe before the light of your love, because I have been lost in darkness so lost. i seek your face, and yet run when you turn towards me. my words are all for vain, because they do no justice to the deep longing i feel; i am completely lost without your love. your love gives me wholeness and purpose, and yet i am afraid to completely rest in you. i am a child of chaos, and sometimes the emptiness and darkness feels more normal than the safety and warmth of your love. help me be content with being at peace, instead of jumping into the abyss. i am not worthy of your love, but time and time again you embrace me over and over. your forgiveness and grace flows abundantly towards me and every wayward child. i keep hearing echoes of your voice, “if you want to get to know me, get to know my kids.” your children like me are not always likable; they sneer, lie, and break each others hurt over and over. every time i want to run, you call me back home to you. you tell me to trust, love, forgive, and then pass on how you love me to the rest of your kids. maybe this time, i’ll finally listen. this time i will stay in your embrace, and learn to love as you love. thank you for your love, and i hope to love those who think unworthy of your love.
old hurt places
what is good
First off, I am surprised that you come to be seeking guidance on romantic love. I feel like you could guide me more authentically and wisely than I could. I have not always loved well, nor allowed myself be loved with gentleness. I think we all struggle with this.
I know you are young, and lots of people are advising you to be careful and not rush into love. I for one make no such suggestion. Let your heart love fully and without restraint. Part of learning to love is having it break from time to time, so it can be remolded. Just remember to let it soften, instead of becoming hard like stone.
It has been my experience that real love makes the heart expand, and real love for me cannot occur until I have opened myself to the Divine Lover. No human power can love you or love me fully, we will always be let down. So I make no suggestions about finding the perfect person, navigating online dating, or where to find the love of your life.
My guidance for you since you asked for it, would be to learn to be at peace with solitude. Spend your alone hours building your relationship with the God of your understanding, and just bask in the love between you and your God. The rest will follow.
All of this is easier said than done. There will be hours of the day that you are hit with profound loneliness and longing, the type that can easily lead one to despair. I have ventured into the dark waters of self pity, despair, hopelessness and suicidal thoughts; there’s no real love in such darkness. However, hope and love can be a beacon of light out of such darkness.
Remember that love does not happen when we always want it, so be at peace with yourself. Enjoy the quiet hours of your life, and embrace loving the very people in your life instead of always seeking for the one.
I hope love finds you again and again, until you are at home with the one who breathed life into you and calls you by name.
Love and Love,
Your Friend on this Journey of Life
searching for connections,
yearning for love.
Only to be alone.
We all seek connection, and in an age that technology connects us instantly with a touch of a bottom, I find it more difficult to find genuine connections.
A connection of the heart requires presence and time. Most days I am happy with the life I have been given, but it’d be nice to have someone to share it with. 😉 Thanks for reading.
( poem first posted on my poetry site: http://hellopoetry.com/poem/1856249/true-loneliness/)
A wise man, Frank Oz, once said while holding a green puppet, “Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate, and hate leads to the dark side of the force.” There’s a whole array of wisdom sayings of Yoda, but I digress.
I am writing to you address your questions about anger. You told me that you were asking me if you are unspiritual to feel anger, and somehow it was wrong? My friend, you and I are both human beings, and anger is part of the human spectrum of emotions. I love the words of Yoda, but I disagree. Anger does not always lead to hate, it’s what we do with it that counts. Buddhists talk about working with what’s coming up inside of you, and this too has been my experience.
Anger is often uncomfortable, and it can lead to a lot of actions that lead to suffering of self and others. But there are instances where anger channeled into positive actions has lead to personal and social change. The anger we feel when someone is treated unjustly is not bad.
Yoda/Frank Oz is correct in that often, fear often leads to anger, and anger can lead to hate. Once we start hating, it is hard to come back from the darkness that surrounds in hating others. We stop being open minded and willing to see a person as person, when we start hating on people.
It takes a lot of skill and experience to work with anger well. In honesty, I really struggle with letting fear turn into hot anger. Fear of not getting what I want, or someone taking away something or someone I love. In those instances, I have found taking a pause or sitting with the anger instead of stewing in it helpful; the difference being that when I sit with anger I breathe deeply and pray for guidance on seeing the situation or person who made me angry in a different way. I don’t always do this well, but there are times I was able to pause when agitated and reacted in a more gentle and wise way. I have never experienced any true good from reacting out of anger, it always seems to cause me, and the other person deep pain.
Learning to accept difficult people in our lives with mercy and compassion is not an easy way of living. So my friend, I suggest that you and I both try to make friends with our anger, and examine the underlying fear behind it. I pray that the Divine Light within you will shine, and you let your life speak even when you are angry.
In the Light,